How to Embrace Valentine’s Day (Even if You’re Single)

Fun fact about me: I have never been a fan of Valentine’s Day. Whether I’m in a relationship, dating, or single, my feelings on the day always remained the same. While I wouldn’t call myself anti-Valentine’s Day, I do feel like it’s a bit impersonal. Valentine’s Day felt like a performative holiday meant to show the world how you feel about someone–even before social media. It’s the direct opposite of my personality since I very much prefer private, sentimental displays of affection.

If you’re a longtime reader of the blog, this may not come as a surprise. I’ve only posted two Valentine’s Day related blog posts over the years, and both focused on the fun part: the fashion! (You can check them out below.)

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Featuring Bella sunglasses received in partnership with DIFF eyewear.

What to Do on Valentine’s Day–for Every Relationship Status

I say all that to say I’ve started to embrace Valentine’s Day with each passing year. Yes, walking down the grocery store aisles the day after Christmas and seeing Valentine’s Day marketing is still annoying, but that’s consumerism for you. 

Today’s post is for those of you who feel indifferent about the holiday. Here’s how you can embrace Valentine’s Day, even if you’re single! If you’re here for the fashion, I still put together a cute date look in the pics! I also swapped out the sunglasses and earrings because I couldn’t decide which combination I liked more–what do you think?

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HM x Giambattista Valli blouse (similar) | Forever 21 skirt | Topshop booties (similar)

Target tights | DIFF sunglasses (c/o) | Sugarfix x Baublebar earrings

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Turn your Valentine’s Day into a Galentine’s Day!

Ah, yes…just one of the many things to love about the sitcom Parks and Recreation. Galentine’s Day is exactly what it sounds like–getting all your friends together and celebrating the love you have for each other.

Much like the show, it doesn’t have to be limited to your single friends. Round up your group and go to brunch, head to an art class, or stop by a local market to do some shopping. 

Galentine’s Day is typically celebrated the day before Valentine’s Day (so as not to curb any plans), but work it out amongst your group to plan your perfect outing!


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Try Something New With Your Spouse

Okay, so I couldn’t talk about Valentine’s Day and not mention plans with a significant other! Of course, this option doesn’t apply to the single folks out there, but you’re up next!

As I mentioned at the top of the post, my feelings on Valentine’s Day remain constant no matter what my relationship status is. If you are in a relationship and don’t love the holiday, do something new and personal! Step outside of the traditional dinner and a movie date accompanied with flowers and chocolate. This Valentine’s Day, dig into those “inside jokes” and pillow talk conversations to plan your date. Is there something you and your spouse have always talked about doing but haven’t yet?

Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity to curate a more thoughtful date. Not only is it more fun and personal that way, but you also get to create new experiences with each other. 


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Spend Valentine’s Day Treating Yourself

Last but not least is yourself. There’s a quote from one of my favorite books, The Perks of Being a Wallflower, that speaks to self-love. It primarily speaks to the importance of being happy from within, which will lead to happiness outside of yourself. If you’re single on Valentine’s Day and don’t feel like spending it with anyone, celebrate yourself! Take yourself out on a solo date, or stay in and enjoy some of your favorite goodies. 

The holiday falls on a Friday this year, so it’s the perfect opportunity to end your work week doing something you love. Make time for yourself and be present. Spend the evening doing things you enjoy that you typically don’t have time for, or have a “treat yo’ self” day a la Donna and Tom of Parks and Rec. Not only is it a great way to embrace Valentine’s Day, but it’s a reminder to take care of yourself. 

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Featuring Scout blue-light glasses received in partnership with DIFF eyewear.

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…and don’t forget to have fun!

No matter what you end up doing and who you end up doing it with, be safe and have fun! I’ll leave you with the quote I alluded to earlier:

“It’s like when you are excited about a girl and you see a couple holding hands, and you feel so happy for them. And other times you see the same couple, and they make you so mad. And all you want is to always feel happy for them because you know that if you do, then it means that you’re happy, too.” 

– Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower

TL;DR? Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about romantic relationships, it can extend to loving those around you–including yourself! No matter what your status is, there’s someone out there who could benefit from having a wonderful holiday:

  1. Friendship: Round up your friends for a Galentine’s Day outing.
  2. Relationship: Get personal with your spouse and try something new.
  3. Solo: Flip Valentine’s Day into a Treat Yo’ Self Day and do what you love.

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